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New World Energies: Career & Success

2012-02-21T07:09:00.001-08:00

Welcome to the New World Energies of 2012.
The energy is/has shifted and the way we define career and success in changing!
In this video, I will be sharing with you the paradigm shift of career and success. Enjoy!

Single on Valentine's Day? You Should Just Feel Sorry For Yourself!

2012-02-13T15:54:00.000-08:00

Single on Valentine's Day?

The Love Guru Blaire says you should just sit home and feel sorry for yourself!

Watch this video clip to learn more:

Happy Valentine's Day my friends!

Wishing you the best in love,

Blaire Allison

2012 New World Energies: Redefining Success

2012-02-11T15:30:00.000-08:00

Dearest friends, our definition of success is changing.

No longer is a person going to be looked at as successful if he or she is putting in long hours at the office No longer will a person be admired if he or she is working himself so hard that he passes out with exhaustion when he gets home.

No longer will we look at people who make loads of money as successful, when their love life is a wreck.

No longer will we value long hours at the office in order to rise to the top.

No longer will we admire those who sacrifice themselves for the sake of the end goal.

Oh no, my friends, these times are becoming no longer.

This my friends, what I just talked about, is old world energy. It's the way we have been brought up. It is the way we have been doing life and our career for many years now.

And friends, these are values that have been instilled into us. Let's all say it together... "In order to be successful, WORK HARD AND SACRIFICE."

But oh no friends, that is old world energy and we are now in world energy and guess what?
The paradigm shift is happening.

Now, as a society, our perceptions are changing.
We are viewing success and our lives differently.

This is happening whether we try to fight this new energy or not, so it is wise that you relax, release, and surrender to what is happening. Trust me, it is for the better.

So my friends, the energy is changing. For many it has already changed. Maybe this has happened to you and you didn't realize it. Well, I am here to explain.

My friends, as a society we are redefining what success means.
No longer is it struggle to survive, but instead it is time to enjoy and create.

Our new definition of success includes an awareness and an appreciation for those who have the good life. And by a good life I mean people who are successful in all areas.

This includes people who embody joy and those who radiate bliss.

They are people who are fulfilled and happy.
People who live with passion and in harmony.
Those who know when to work and respect their time to rest and be at peace.

This my friends, is the paradigm shift, and this is the new world definition of success.

Now friends, I know for years you have been in fight or flight mode.
You have had fears about losing your job and fears about making money and making the rent.

But friends, as you either know first hand or have seen, many of those fears have already come to fruition. And friends, you now realize, nothing truly bad has happened.

You have found your faith, you have found your love, and you have found your peace.

Now friends, keep in mind, as you rebuild your lives, you will notice how you will be rebuilding them differently.

Instead of striving up the corporate ladder or hustling to get that raise, you will be focusing your time on what truly makes you happy.

You will be focusing your energy on the things that bring you peace and joy.

You will be following the the flow of fulfillment.
The path of love.
The journey of fun and excitement.

Instead of sacrificing in the now to reach some distant goal in the future, my friends, you will find ways to enjoy the journey. You will find ways you can have the best, most fun, joyous, and expanded, loving ride in the now.

This is what the new world energy that we are in is all about.

And friends, this is just one of the many wonderful paradigm shifts that is happening.
Life is opening to all of us for the better and much happiness awaits you now.
Enjoy!

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* If you need help releasing, feel free to set up a session with me. You don't have to suffer through your disappointing life experiences anymore.

Wishing you the best in love,

Blaire Allison
Intuitive Heart Healer
The Love Guru

2012 Copyright. Blaire Allison, LLC. All Rights Reserved.

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About Blaire Allison

Intuitive Heart Healer, Spiritual Teacher, The Love Guru

In 2004, Blaire was frustrated and fed up in her search to find "The One" so she prayed for guidance and had the idea to put up a website entitled www.marryblaire.com. On the website she stated boldly, "I'm Ready To Get Married - Do You Know My Husband®?" What started off as a fun project and a way for her to be more proactive in her love life, turned into a magical journey. The Universe stepped in and taught her an easier, more natural, flowing way to find love, which she now teaches and calls "The Spiritual Way To Attract The One."

Blaire has the gift to open and heal your heart so you can attract the love you desire. Within a few minutes of talking with you Blaire can tell either what's blocking you from attracting love (and then will take you through Heart Healing Exercises™) or if your heart is totally clear, she will take you through Love Attracting Exercises™ so you can attract love into your life, rather than searching or looking for it which is what most people do. Blaire communicates with the Spiritual realm and shares channeled messages from her guides and angels that will help and heal your love life. Sessions are unique; a combination of spiritual principles as well as practical exercises that will help you enjoy a happier, healthier life.

Blaire is regularly featured in National & International Press. The New York Times, The Los Angeles Times, Montel Show, Glamour Magazine, Inside Edition, MSNBC, CNN, New York Daily News, etc. For more information, please visit www.loveguru.net

Love Expert Advice for Valentine's Day

2012-02-10T06:09:00.000-08:00

Love Expert Advice - The Love Guru Blaire says Valentine's Day is 100% the MAN'S RESPONSIBILITY.

Watch this video clip to find out why....

http://www.loveguru.net/content/love-expert-advice-for-valentines-day

Love Guru Radio Show: I Married My Parents and So Will You!

2012-02-09T15:29:00.000-08:00

Mark your calendar for Tuesday 10AM EST! I will be doing my radio show, Love Life (Heart) Confessions.

TOPIC: I Married My Parents and So Will You!

Plus I will be taking your calls about dating, love, and relationships.

I will be talking about the healing that takes place when we decide to couple up. Tune
in!

Radio Show Details Here / Listen in Here:
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/lovegurublaire/2012/02/14/i-married-my-parents-and-so-will-you

Praying for "the One"

2012-02-08T13:42:00.000-08:00

In this video clip, Intuitive Heart Healer, The Love Guru Blaire shares how to attract "The One" by using prayer

Blaire also talks about praying HARD for love and why not to do it.

In 2004 Blaire was fed up and frustrated in her search for "the One" - so she put up a website for friends and family to find him for her.

Two weeks into the website being up, the Universe stepped in and showed Blaire the way. It wasn't the website that taught Blaire how to attract the One, but instead the lessons she learned through the experience.

Praying to Attract "The One" is one of these principles she learned. Tune in to listen to Blaire share this principle in finding love....

CLICK HERE, WATCH THE VIDEO >>
PRAYING FOR "The One"

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Release Your Fears. Release Your Worries. Release The Past.

2012-02-07T08:14:00.000-08:00

Dearest friends, the time has come for you to release.

Release those things that are holding you back.
Release those fears.
Release those worn out beliefs.
Release those draining commitments.
Release the pressure.
Release those thought patterns.
Release those fears.
Release those worries.
Release, release, release.

My friends, I can't say it enough.
Release, release, release.

We are now in a time of great magnificence.
A time of great magic.
A time of GREAT manifestation.

A time of great gifts and all of it is here for you.
But friends, in order for you to RECEIVE, you must RELEASE.

Friends, the world has changed. It is no longer the same. The ways of behaving that were once acceptable, that were once common practice, are no longer supported.

My friends, many are suffering.
They are suffering because they are trying to act in the old way in this new energy. My friends, that just won't work.

My friends, we must all take a cleansing bath. A beautiful, clearing bath. We must clear our minds, clear our hearts and step into the new.

My friends, it will be very difficult to enjoy this new energy, if you are still operating in past world energy.

See, in the past we were able to carry these poisonous thought forms in our energy field. We were able to keep these hurts in our minds, but friends, with this new energy, in this new world, carrying these old thought forms, carrying this hurt, this pain, this unforgiveness, these negative thought patterns, well friends, carrying this all with us is no longer an option.

Now friends, this transformation is not easy.

I am not going to lie to you or even kid around with you on this one. There is work for you to do and friends, sometimes, it's just not easy. It takes discipline. It takes willpower. It takes a determination and it takes a love for yourself at a higher level.

My friends, do you want to live at a higher level?
Do you want to have a higher level of vibration? A higher level of living life? A broader prospective of awareness and majesty over your desires?

My friends, I know you do.

So friends, the first place to start is with your story. You know, your "story." Or actually I should say your STORIES. My friends, you know these stories. The stories you tell yourself. The stories you tell your friends. The stories you will tell anyone who will be open to listen. My friends, start examining your stories.

We all have stories, and my friends, I must say that not all of yours have been the best, most positive, in your best interest stories. My friends you tell these stories over and over again, and friends, you sound like broken records.

Well, the time has come to drop these stories.

They have been filled with fear and criticism and pressure and thoughts that you are not good enough, will never be good enough, that you are missing things, and that opportunities don't come your way.

My friends, opportunities come your way, but you are so busy in your negative thought forms, you are so busy in your heads, that friends, you scare away these rewards, you scare away these opportunities.

You don't even see them when they present themselves, because you are so busy in your stories. You are so busy in your worries. You are so busy in your fears and you are so busy in your anxieties.

My friends, the time has come.
Release, release, release.

You have the power to do this. We all have the power to do this, but now my friends, the time has come to exercise this power. Exercise this power by dumping these old, worn out, fearful, anxiety provoking thought forms. Friends, take out your garbage!

Now friends, follow me on this. Every day or every other day or every week, you take out the garbage in your home. You gather up that bag, you throw whatever else is hanging around and you physically go and dump your trash.

You let it go, you release it.

So friends, this is excellent. You clean your physical space. Again, wonderful, but what about your mental body, what about your energetic body, what about your spiritual body?

Ohhh, noo friends, that garbage is overflowing. Too much in there and it is popping out, all over the floor, overflowing and stinking up your internal landscape.

My friends, it's time to dump the garbage.

You see friends, this is a perfect comparison. In our old world, in the old energy, you were able to hold onto the garbage that you accumulated. You were able to grow through the years with the stinky mildew of old thoughts, unforgiveness, anger, fear, worry, and woundedness.

You were able to walk through this world, carrying it all with you.
Boy, are you all excellent travelers.

But friends, now in this new energy, in this new world, you are mentally, emotionally, spiritually UNABLE to carry these old thought forms, this old baggage with you.

So friends, if something happens to you in this world, now in the present time, say you were heartbroken or you got disappointing news, my friends, it is imperative that now you process these emotions and release them.

No more digging them down deep in your soul and carrying them along your journey. Ohh no, this is impossible to do now.

And friends, maybe you don't know what I am talking about -- just yet -- but friends, you will come to experience it and you will remember my words. Release, release, release.

My friends, release your old programming.
Release your fearful thoughts.
Release those thoughts that bind you.
Release, release, release.

Release through awareness.
Release through intention.
Release through ease and grace.
Release through prayer.
And release through surrender.
Release, release, release.

* If you need help releasing, feel free to set up a session with me. You don't have to suffer through your disappointing life experiences anymore.

Wishing you the best in love,

Blaire Allison
Intuitive Heart Healer
The Love Guru

2012 Copyright. Blaire Allison, LLC. All Rights Reserved.

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About Blaire Allison

Intuitive Heart Healer, Spiritual Teacher, The Love Guru

Abuse in Relationships

2012-01-13T06:14:00.000-08:00

Abuse in relationships is rampant and often not talked about.
It's typically not talked about because people don't really know all the details as far as what abuse really is.

Sure, it's pretty obvious if your partner is hitting you, then you are suffering from abuse.

But what about other types of abuse, such as verbal abuse and emotional abuse.

Now, I know what you may be thinking - verbal abuse is an obvious one as well.

Verbal abuse is when your partner calls you names, such as "stupid, good for nothing, bastard, asshole, etc" but really verbal abuse is much more than all of this.

I call these the "obvious" side of verbal abuse. But there is a more covert side of verbal abuse, that again, not many know about and therefore not many talk about.

Did you know that verbal abuse is when your partner calls you names, such as "selfish," "too sensitive," "overly analytical" or "moody." Yes, calling you names or putting you down like this is categorized as verbal abuse.

Again, maybe you are so used to being called names, by your parents or by others, that you don't even realize when your partner or friends call you these things as well...

Verbal abuse takes many forms.
So does emotional abuse.

Does your partner disrespect your feelings?

You may tell him or her that you were hurt by what they said or did - - and instead of saying they are sorry and asking for more information, they get all defensive and attack?

This is emotional abuse.

Does your partner roll their eyes or make faces at you when you talk?

This is emotional abuse.

These two things - your partner getting defensive - and your partner rolling their eyes at you - is a strong sign that your relationship won't last (Based on the Research on Married Couples by John Gottman)

Does your partner seem energized by fighting when it drains you?

This is emotional abuse.

Does your partner have unpredictable mood swings? She or he goes from good to bad - happy to sad - or happy to angry - for no reason?

Does your partner twist your words and then play the victim like you said something to insult or hurt them when you are telling him or her that you have been hurt?

This is emotional abuse.

Does your partner leave you stranded at places? And then joke about it later? Or play innocent?

Does your partner constantly threaten to leave you? Or to leave the relationship and break up?

Again, these are all signs of emotional abuse.

Like I said, emotional abuse takes many forms and it is important that you are educated about what exactly it is so you don't get into this type of relationship - or that you know to take a stand when and if it happens to you.

See, unfortunately many relationships in our society are dysfunctional.

Now, no one is to blame for these occurrences, it is simply because people are modeling what they have seen happen in their own family's relationships.

Unfortunately, many people are not educated as to how to positively talk to someone, how to boost them up, how to build a healthy relationship, and what a healthy relationship really looks like.

Dysfunctional relationships are passed down from generation to the next, most of the time unconsciously, and not even being examined as to whether the relationship they are cultivating is healthy.

Most of the times people who are treating their loved ones in emotionally or verbally abusive ways aren't even aware that they are being abusive.

They think everything is fine and normal....

Because everything is fine and normal.

Again, this is the type of relationship they are used too...

They don't think they are doing anything wrong.

Signs of Emotional Abuse and Signs of Verbal Abuse:

Now, I will continue with more signs of emotional and verbal abuse, as I feel it is very important that you know the signs.

Many people who have experienced these things in their relationships don't learn about the signs of verbal and emotional abuse until AFTER it has happened to them.

They don't learn about abuse until after they are suffering with the effects of it and after they are taking the steps in trying to rebuild themselves.

If you know the signs before it has happened to you or read this now and realize that this is the type of relationship you are suffering through, then this is a great time to start getting some help for yourself.

Here are more abuse signs of verbal and emotional abuse....

You feel you can't discuss what is bothering you with your partner, for fear of how he or she will react...

Your partner frequently criticizes you, humiliates you, or does things to damage your self esteem.

Your partner makes fun of you or puts you down for expressing yourself?

Your relationship goes from being very close to one another - to a lot of emotional distance.

You feel obligated to have sex just to avoid talking about it or having an argument about it. You want to pretend like everything is okay... (when it really is not)

You start to feel trapped and depressed in the relationship.

Vulnerable and insecure.

He or she has told you you are "wrong" for having your feelings or disappointments or concerns about the relationship. You are frequently told by him or her that "everything is fine" and "we have a good relationship" - therefore making you think that you are wrong or are imagining something.

You start to doubt your feelings and your judgments.

You wonder if you are making this all up....

You express your feelings and opinions less and less often.

You try to hide or avoid your partner.

And find yourself walking on eggshells to not upset him or her or bring your partner to anger.

You long to be protected and comforted by your partner, but it just does not happen.

You feel emotionally and possibly physically unsafe.

You start making excuses for your partner's behavior.

Feel it's not okay to talk to others about your relationship - as you know they will say "ohh, it's nothing" or "you should leave him/her"

You feel confused and not sure what to do.

You hope and pray that things will change, that some miracle will happen and your partner will become more loving and more understanding.

You are afraid of your partner.

My friends, if you could relate to some items that I shared with you today, you have been (or you are) the victim of emotional or verbal abuse.

Please read some books on the subject or seek a professional that can help you out of this situation.

A professional can also help you while being in the relationship, so don't necessarily think that your relationship is doomed, if you do love this person and want to be with her/him.

Many times when people suffer from verbal or emotional abuse they are told to dismiss what is happening to them. That it is no big deal or it happens in ever relationship.

You might be told that everyone has their bad days or their bad sides to them, but you should look over it and compromise.

Verbal and emotional abuse may happen in many relationships, but it is not okay and it is not a healthy.

You deserve a healthy relationship.

And you can experience a healthy relationship.

It's just a matter of getting some help, doing some introspection and healing, and breaking the pattern of dysfunction.

Because, my friends, if you are experiencing abuse in your intimate relationship, you have most likely experienced it in other relationships you have had growing up as well.

Many people do not give much validity to verbal or emotional abuse unless it is severe because you cannot see bruise wounds like you can when someone is suffering from physical abuse.

But I will tell you that verbal and emotional abuse is very much real and it is hurtful and unhealthy and it is also very much in a grey area whether it is happening or not....

People can have very much trouble defining it.

So friends, please keep these things in mind if you think this is happening to you.

Do not blame yourself or doubt yourself or think you are going crazy.
It just may be difficult to explain what is happening to you...

Also, it may be difficult to talk about because others may tell you it is normal or nothing to worry about. But friends, that is simply not true.

Wishing you the best in love,

Blaire Allison
Intuitive Heart Healer
The Love Guru

PS: Schedule your heart healing, love attracting session with Blaire, click here for more information

2011 Copyright. Blaire Allison, LLC. All Rights Reserved.

Feel free to repost this article elsewhere, just please include bio info below. Thank you.

About Blaire Allison

Intuitive Heart Healer, Spiritual Teacher, The Love Guru

Which Way Is This Relationship Going?

2012-01-08T07:40:00.000-08:00

My friends, many of you worry which way your relationship is going.

Many of you wonder, "Are we building and developing a relationship?"
or "Are we just being friends?"
or "Are we just hook up buddies."

Many of you worry about being used. Taken advantage of.

Many of you fear being hurt.

But friends, there is no need to think about the direction of your relationship.
No need to worry about the direction of your relationship.

For friends, your relationship will always move in a direction.
It will never stand still, it will never go nowhere.
For friends, your relationship is always moving.

Yes, moving in the direction of you two getting closer.
Or moving in the direction of you two going apart.

But this is not cause of worry or concern, and friends, I know you spend a lot of time thinking about these types of directions.

You try to strategically align yourself so the relationship goes in the direction you are desiring.
Trying to maneuver this or move that way.

You're all very clever with your "to call.... or to not call"

You're all very smart with your "should I email.... or not email"

..."Ask him/her out or sit and wait patiently to be pursued"

My friends, you are all very clever with your moves.
You are all expert maneuver-ers.

You are all very strategic.

You really should be in some CIA or FBI department putting those moves into good, good use.

But friends, when it comes to relationships. When it comes to intimate relationships, those moves, those thought processes are really useless.

They really will get you nowhere and are really just a waste of time and energy.

Now friends, now I know you don't want to hear that.

I know you want to feel like you have some control in the "Let's make this relationship work" department, but friends, you really do not.

And friends, why would you want to have control over this area of your life?

Why would you want to connive your way into someone's life... someone's life who really, may not even be compatible with yours?

Why would you want to purposely scoot yourself closer to someone who is going to bring you heartache? hurt? and possibly horror. Now I joke by saying "someone to bring you horror" but friends, just know, that all relationships are not good, healthy ones.

So friends, you could be parlay-ing your way into someone's life who really could be not right for you.

You could be making moves that really aren't for your highest good.

So friends, I know it is a tempting question to ask.

I know you want to know which way your relationship with so-and-so is going, but friends, that is not the question to be asking.

That is not the prayer to be praying.

Friends, when you are wondering this question or trying to control or manipulate who will be your partner for life, friends, dear friends, simply pray that Spirit sends you someone for your highest good.

Ask Spirit to match you up with this man or woman, if only it is for your and her/his highest good.

For friends, only Spirit can see the bigger picture here.

Only Spirit can know who is good for who and who will bring the most learning, growth, and happiness into your life.

For friends, when you are ever trying to control your circumstances, simply step back and pray to be shown.

For friends, when you do that - - that is when you will truly know which way your relationship is going.

Wishing you the best in love,

Blaire Allison
Intuitive Heart Healer
The Love Guru

PS: Schedule your heart healing, love attracting session with Blaire, click here for more information

2011 Copyright. Blaire Allison, LLC. All Rights Reserved.

Feel free to repost this article elsewhere, just please include bio info below. Thank you.

About Blaire Allison

Intuitive Heart Healer, Spiritual Teacher, The Love Guru

Feeling Lonely When Single

2012-01-07T16:30:00.000-08:00

My friends, I know sometimes you feel lonely when you are single. This is okay.

Well, of course it is not okay, but it is what it is.

You are feeling lonely.

When you feel lonely, just know that it is just a sign that you are disconnected from Source.

It is not what you typically attribute it to - as being disconnected from another human being, a companion, a lover. No, that is not what loneliness is.

And although when you are feeling lonely, many times those thoughts will come to you that if you just had a partner that you would not feel this loneliness, let me assure you, this is simply not true.

Having a partner will not clear up your feelings of loneliness.

For friends, many people.... many, many people feel just as alone and lonely when they have a partner. Maybe their feeling of loneliness will be gone temporarily, but I assure you, that loneliness feeling will almost always come back.

For friends, loneliness is not a bad feeling. It is not "Bad" as you attribute it to be "bad" - it is just a reminder for you to connect to your center. For you to connect to your Source.

So friends, do you know how to connect to Source?

Have you developed some sort of relationship to your true Mother/Father?

For friends, I am saying that your true Mother/Father is that of Spirit.
It is that of Source.

And friends, if you are feeling lonely, or rather I should say WHEN you are feeling lonely, as this may be an unescapable feeling for you sometimes, well friends, all you need to do at this time of loneliness is to connect back to Source. Connect to your Spirit. Connect to your true Mother/Father.

For friends, many times we look to others to comfort us.
To support us. To compliment us. To appreciate us.

But friends, this comfort.... this support... this appreciation, is only short lived if we are not already filled up with the comfort, the support, and the love of Source.

For friends, no other can possibly fill up your "I appreciate myself, I love myself, I support myself" tank, other than you and that of Spirit.

Now friends, sometimes Spirit is the better one to help us fill up our "I appreciate myself, I love myself, I support myself" tank (than ourselves).

Sometimes it's just too hard to solely be the one to fill ourselves up. Sometimes it's very hard.

This is not a problem and if this is the case for you my friend, then simply turn to Spirit to do it for you.

And friends, when you need support, all you need to do is ask.

You can ask Spirit quietly in your head or you can ask Spirit by screaming it out loud.

No matter what you do, know that Spirit doesn't mind.

Spirit doesn't mind how you go about seeking for it's love, for it's affection, for it's support or for it's appreciation.

Spirit doesn't get offended how you go about asking for it.

It's not like you can do it a right way or a wrong way.

Just call it out to Spirit.
Scream it out to Source.
Say... "fill me up!"

You can say "Hey Spirit! I need your help! Fill me up! I'm feeling lonely... sad... lost... confused!"
Whatever the feeling you feel, call it out to Spirit and ask for it to "fill you up."

My friends, connecting with Spirit really is that easy.
It really is that simple.
And friends, it's really all you need to do.

So friends, anytime you are feeling lonely.

Anytime you are down in the dumps about being single and not sure what to do. Rather than going to an ex boyfriend, an ex lover, a casual hookup, or some one night stand - - friends, just turn to Spirit.

Turn to Spirit to comfort you.
To support you.
To love you.

For friends, the truth is, even though you may classify yourself as "single," you are never, never, never alone.

Wishing you the best in love,

Blaire Allison
Intuitive Heart Healer
The Love Guru

PS: If you would like to schedule a heart healing, love attracting session with Blaire, click here for more information

2011 Copyright. Blaire Allison, LLC. All Rights Reserved.

Feel free to repost this article elsewhere, just please include bio info below. Thank you.

About Blaire Allison

Intuitive Heart Healer, Spiritual Teacher, The Love Guru

Living In The Unknown

2012-01-04T03:52:00.000-08:00

Dear Friends, we are in a time that we are living in great unknown.

This refers to many possible things in your life.... your career, your relationships, your health.

It can all be in the unknown.

Now, why is it unknown you may ask? Because we are in this new energy of 2012, this new paradigm, this new state of consciousness.

The world is changing - - it has changed, and therefore we are now in this transition of unknown.

Now, before you fear, know that these are good changes. That this "unknown" is a good thing, because you can create any kind of life for yourself that you would like.

Of course you were able to do this for yourself before, but now you are able to do it at a much faster rate - for you my friends are feeling your power, and you are able to create so many more wonderful things in your life.

Are you creating wonderful things?
Are you working with your thought forms to purify them, to clear out the craziness, the unhealthiness of them, the old patterns, the old ways of being?

I know I have been talking about this a lot lately and just know that the reason why I talk about it so much is because the message is so important. It is so clear.

Clear out and heal your thoughts.

Heal your life.

Heal your wounds.

Heal what hurts you.

And my friends, I know you have hurts in your life.

Whether you are stressing about your health.

Or upset over your career.

Or jealous of an individual.

Or unforgiving of your past.

Or like many of you, troubled in your relationship.

Relationships with family members, relationships with your significant others, or quite possible, and most likely, troubles you have with yourself.

For friends, you and only you are holding yourself back.

This is always the case - and now even more so.

So please, my friends, clean up your energy - purify it, and heal your wounds.
Proceed in this new energy as a pure being of light. Manifest all of your desires.

Do you realize how powerful you are?
How magnificent you are?
Sadly, I don't think you do.

And know, I'm not blowing smoke up your ass. For this is true.

Friends, the energy in our Universe has gotten lighter.
The energy has sped up.

Manifestations are much more extravagant and more wonderful. I know this is "new age" talk for you, but I am just sharing with you what the energy of the Universe is at this time.

If you are working with fear-based and fear-full thoughts, if you are flirting with them, entertaining them, indulging in them, then you, my friends, are giving attention to the wrong things in your life.

And friends, if you give attention to these things, then you are surely going to create more of these things in your life and I know you do not want that.

So friends, back to our main subject at hand. We are living in the unknown. That means that although you will want to have definites about things that are going on in your life. And although you will want to know where you are going and where you stand, this could be with people in your life and with things in your life - my friends, just know, you won't be able to get those answers because that's simply not the energy of the present time. That is not the energy of the now.

Things are changing too fast and when things are changing, they are transitioning.

The are moving, wharping, twisting, turning....... and new things are being created.

Things are being created for you, in your life, right now.

Use this energy to your benefit to create the things that you so desire.

Use this energy to create things in your life you have been longing for, dreaming about, really, really wanting.

You do this, simply by focusing your attention.
By focusing your thoughts.

Now of course this is easier said than done in some instances, and quite understandable, as friends, when you are having trouble focusing your thoughts on positive things - - when you keep being pulled into this negative thinking, that simply means there is a need for some healing.

That means that there is a wound that you hold so deeply that you can't see straight.

When you are wounded, things get confusing in life. You think you are making right decisions, but then question them later.

The decisions you make are also hard to maintain. Your stance, your position on the subject is a hard one to keep....

Why?

Because there is wounding. Deep down wounding.

Again, nothing to feel bad about here.
Nothing to feel weird or wrong about.

We all have this, but not everyone is aware of their wounds and many people will deny them or get defensive over their wounding.

But let's forget about other people.
It's not important to focus on other people's journey at this time, let's focus on your journey and what you are doing at this time.

Are you feeling wounded in an area of your life?

Are you tossing and turning and uncomfortable about something in your life?

If so, then now is the time to work on that issue, clear it up, and heal it.

When you do this, your vibration gets clearer, lighter, and more powerful.

This is power that you can then use to manifest the things in your life that you really, really want.

Wishing you the best in love,

Blaire Allison
Intuitive Heart Healer
The Love Guru

PS: If you would like to schedule a heart healing, love attracting session with Blaire, click here for more information

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Communicating with Your Partner, Understanding Your Partner

2011-12-30T08:12:00.000-08:00

Friends, when you date and when you are in a relationship with someone who is other than yourself, you have to learn a new language.

You have to learn the language of your partner.

This language is a new language of understanding the world. It's a new language of interpreting the world. It's a new language of communicating.

For my friends, when you are in relationship with yourself, you will always understand yourself, but when you bring a partner in the mix - and you will - you have to be open to this new way of communicating.

See, my friends, whether you are in a relationship with someone of another culture...
A person from another country....
or even a person of of your own culture or country, your ways of communicating are different.

Totally and completely different.
Why?
Because this person is not you. I will explain this further below....

Now, I am in a relationship with a man who is English. He was born and raised in England and has lived there for most of his life. When we got into partnership and because he came from an english speaking country, I made the assumption that he was just like me.

Boy, was I wrong.

But my friends, it's not like I am talking about obvious cultural differences. I'm not referring to our different words for bar (he calls it pub) or how he uses the word bloke for man or how he calls me his bird (girl). Ohh, no, for that would be too easy.

See our differences in speaking came out in much more subtle ways. Subtle, sneaky ways. Now I'm not saying "sneaky" to be malicious, I am just using it to prove a point.

See my friends, when you are having communication problems with another, many times you may not even recognize it as communication problems... instead you will see it as PERSONALITY problems.

You might not like the person. You'll hate them or be turned off by them or you'll be offended by them.

You'll say, "Eww! I don't like that person! They're so pushy.... demanding.... controlling.... or so damn sneaky"... whatever it is, just fill in the blank.

Again, these are all personality judgments, when my friends, maybe that is not even the problem.

Instead of them having some personality fault, it may just be that what you are saying and how they are interpreting it is two different things....

Now, let's just say you are dating someone who is from your same country, is from your same state, and is from your own religion....maybe they were even brought up right down the street from you!
Easy communicating, right?? Wrong!!

See friends, even though we think another person is exactly like us. Even if they have had similar upbringings.... have a family like yours, like the same food, the same activities, the same hobbies, and have the same outlook on life as you.... the thing to remember here is, they are not the same as you.

They are NOT the same as you. Never. No how. No matter what.

Why?

Because, ever since the moment you were each born, you have both had different experiences.

What happened in your own homes were different.
How your parents treated you were different.
The interpretations you made about life were different.
Again, even if they are very similar to you...
Again, it's not the same.

So, my friends, communication issues can come up very easily in any relationship because we are all coming from different perspectives. Different life circumstances. Different life experiences. And different ways of interpreting things.

This happens in every relationship.

And my friends, the reason why we run into problem in our relationships is because we make the ASSUMPTION that the person we are dating, in a relationship with, making love to... is exactly the same as us.

So this can get very confusing.
And maybe it sounds very abstract to you if you haven't yet noticed it.
But my friends, look for it, be aware of it.... and when it comes up in your relationship, ASK about it.

Yes, that's right. Ask.

When the person you are dating or in a relationship with, says something to you that you don't quite understand. Something you get hurt by. Something you get offended by.... Ask them if they can share more information.

Ask them if they can explain it to you in other words than what they have already used. Ask them what they mean.

Be curious.
Be curious about how your partner sees life.
Be curious on what they mean.
Be interested in how their world is different than yours... because remember, their world - - again, no matter how similar you think the two of you are -- is different.

Now of course this can turn into lots of talking, my friends and I know you don't want to be talking so much in your relationships.... especially not so much about this communication stuff, but just look at it as a journey into someone else's world.

A learning as to how they view life.
What they mean when they say certain words or phrases.
Look at it as an education.
An adventure.

And friends, it's something you will have to do no matter what relationship you are in... again, except unless it's a relationship with yourself (but even with that relationship, it's good practice to ask yourself questions to get to know yourself deeper and deeper.... but I digress).

All this "work" in relationship may feel draining and boring, but a little extra "work" put in to get to really know your partner will bring you both so much more closer. And this my friends, is such a beautiful gift!

Wishing you the best in love,

Blaire Allison
Intuitive Heart Healer
The Love Guru

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Different Dimensional Living

2011-12-28T10:08:00.000-08:00

Today, my friends, I would like to talk about different dimensional living. No I am not talking about living on other planets or in other Universes, I am talking about living in different dimensions right here on Earth.

See as you go through your own healing (are you going through your own healing? for now is the time...), as you become clearer and clearer on your own path, as you clear through those thought patterns, emotions, old pain and wounds, you enter different dimensions of living.

Each one of us, although we may all be living here in physical form here on Earth, and amongst one another, each one of us is having our own experience of what it means to live "life."

Some of us see life as hard and struggle to make a living.
Others of us see life as a game and play through the adventure.
Some of us view people as enemies and will battle it out until their death.
And others of us view people as there to support one another and lean on one another for strength.

These are all different ways of viewing life. Not one is right and not one is wrong. We are just all simply living on different dimensions.

The process of healing removes mal-adaptive thought patterns. It clears away those hurtful experiences that have happened to you many years ago that now taint how you see life. Some of these experiences, many of these experiences, you may have deemed as insignificant. Some of these experiences you may not even remember.

Healing is a process of clearing. Clearing of all that is not you and all which is not truth. For friends, you are Spirit. You are completely love and light. Love filled with joy, and harmony, and peace, and truth. Light for the knowing that you are always guided on your path to serve.

For friends, we are all here to serve. We are all here to share our gifts with the world and to light up the world with our beauty.

For those of you who are not experiencing this. For those of you who are living in fear. Those of you who are making decisions based on your false sense of self. You are simply yet to be awakened.

My friends, this is a time of great awakening. More and more of the human race is becoming their Spirit form, here on Earth. More and more are sharing their gifts, letting their light shine, and spreading their love. For friends, this is the only thing that matters for you to do here on Earth. It is the only thing for you to do.

Many people in our society are focused on accomplishment. This is how we have been programmed since we are young. Again, there is no judgment here and I am not making you wrong for having goals and wanting to get "things" in your lifetime, for this is what I want as well.

All I am saying is that along with getting those "things" from the outside world.... Along with ticking off things on your list of "to do".. make sure you spend some time healing yourself.

Spend some time clearing out the old wounds that haunt you. Or maybe, more actually, they probably, maybe, don't even haunt you at all. For my friends, many people in this world are walking around wounded. Wounded beliefs and wounded thoughts and wounded ways of behaving and not even knowing that this way of being is only their wounded self.

It is not who they truly are or who they are truly meant to be.

For friends, when you take an exploration into healing, you realize that there is only love in this world.

Beautiful love and service. Service to one another, love for one another, and love for ourselves. For friends, when we are sharing this love and service, we make our world better. We heal ourselves and we heal our home (Earth).

Wishing you the best in love,

Blaire Allison
Intuitive Heart Healer
The Love Guru

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Release What Is Holding You Back

2011-12-27T10:05:00.000-08:00

Dear friends, release what is holding you back in life. Release your old wounds, your old thought patterns, your old ways of being. Nothing hurts you more than living in the past. Living in ways you did in the past. For each day is a new beginning, a new opportunity, a new way to be living.

Look at how you deal with your parents.
Look at how you deal with your friends.
Look at how you deal with your lovers.
How is it you are acting that is holding people back? Keeping people away?
Keeping yourself in a bubble, a bubble of no-love and unforgiveness?

This is a great time of healing. Healing of these parts of your self that are no longer.
Parts of yourself that have served their time. Have had their place. But now are no longer needed.
My friends, what are these parts of yourself?

Take a look at them. Take stock of them. What is it that you want to change?

You don't have to live your life the way you have always been living it.
I'm not saying anything is wrong with how you have been living, but don't you know there is much more greatness out there waiting for you?

Who would you be without your story?
Without your story of who abused you?
Without your story of who hurt you?
Without your story of who didn't love you?
Without your story of who used you?

These are all parts of yourself that are wounded. Parts of yourself that have served their purpose. Told a good story, but are now no longer needed. Release them. Release them now.

Of course this is easier said than done, but you have it in you to release these dysfunctional, damaging parts of yourself. You have it in you to release these destructive parts of your personality. After all, this is only your personality, it is not who you truly are. You are Spirit and what you are is love. That is it. Completely, correctly, love. All those other parts of you are adaptations to your personality that you developed from being here on Earth. Again, they served their purpose for you in the past, but now they are only serving to bind you.

First you start with intention. What is your intention to create?

If you are desiring a new future. A future that you haven't experienced before, then it is important that you release these old ways of being.

For my friend, when people talk about the future, they are really talking about their life as it is now. They are really talking about their past. Is this making sense to you? For it is, my friends, that because people bring in their same selves, with their same attitudes, and their same beliefs, and their same wounded-ness into their future, they are really going to be living their same lives as they are now - in the future.

The way you truly create a new future. A new life. New possibilities is by releasing those parts of you that are no longer serving. By releasing those parts of you that are no longer you.

When you release these mal-adaptive parts of you, then you are given the opportunity to create fresh.

To create a fresh new life, that is truly a whole new future.

2011 Copyright. Blaire Allison, LLC. All Rights Reserved.

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About Blaire Allison:
Blaire Allison is an Intuitive Heart Healer, known as the Love Guru. In 2004, she was frustrated and fed up in her search to find "The One" so she prayed for guidance and had the idea to put up a website, www.marryblaire.com. On the website she stated boldly, "I'm Ready To Get Married - Do You Know My Husband?" What started off as a fun project and a way for her to be more proactive in her love life, turned into a magical journey. The Universe stepped in and taught her an easier, more natural, flowing way to find love, which she now teaches and calls "The Spiritual Way To Attract The One." Blaire has the gift to open and heal your heart so you can attract the love you desire. Within a few minutes of talking with you Blaire can tell either what's blocking you from attracting love (and then will take you through Heart Healing Exercises™) or if your heart is totally clear, she will take you through Love Attracting Exercises™ so you can attract love into your life, rather than searching or looking for it which is what most people do. Blaire communicates with the Spiritual realm and shares channeled messages from her guides and angels that will help and heal your love life. Sessions are unique; a combination of spiritual principles as well as practical exercises that will help you enjoy a happier, healthier life. Blaire is regularly featured in National and International Press. The New York Times, Los Angeles Times, Montel Show, Glamour Magazine, Inside Edition, MSNBC, CNN, etc. A beautiful mix of Spirituality and Psychology, Blaire is currently completing her Master's degree in Marriage and Family Therapy. To learn more visit www.loveguru.net

Paradigm Shift In Relationships: Wholeness

2011-12-27T08:41:00.000-08:00

Dear friends, there is a paradigm shift happening in relationships. You will start to see your relationships change. This is not for the better or for the worse, it is simply change. Your perspective of relationships will start to change and so will other people's perspectives.

Rather than viewing relationships as a way of completing oneself, we will start to look at relationships as a way of complimenting us.

Complimenting, rather than completing.
For you, my friends, you complete yourself.

No longer will people greet one another as having (relationship) or lacking (relationship) but instead greeting one another as wholeness. Wholeness, that you, and all of you, are whole and complete.

You will learn more and more that the relationship you have with yourself is all that matters.

In the past, we sought relationships to complete us. To make us happy. To give us security.
We looked at our partners as someone to keep us company. To hold us tight. To comfort us and make us feel good.

Of course partnership can still do this for you, but we are moving into a time when all beings will realize that this is the power they have to give to themselves. For friends, those of you who continue in the old paradigm, in the old thought patterns of, "Let me find someone to make me happy... to make me feel whole" you will find a feeling of great unhappiness. You will find yourself feeling lost and confused.

My friends, we are moving into a time and an era where we are understanding on a deeper level that only we have the ability to make ourselves happy. That only we have the ability to complete ourselves. Only we have a life worth living.

In the past, women used to support their men. Make meals for them when they arrived home late from work. Women were the home-keepers and men were the goal-getters. These roles have changed. No longer are the days where a woman supports her man by staying at home from work. No longer are the days were a man's work is more important than a woman's.

Partners are understanding that both, equally and passionately, have dreams to follow. Both partners are understanding that each partner has a life path to follow. Certain goals to achieve and certain things to make manifest.

Both partners are understanding that dinner needs to be made and laundry needs to be done. No longer is this women's work. And no longer is a man's work focused on reaching goals and making money.

This is all related to the paradigm shift we are experiencing. No longer is a man needing a woman to complete a home and no longer is a woman needing a man to do the same. Instead, they are both individuals, on their own life paths, pursuing their own dreams and desires, coming together, as two forms of wholeness, to create a life together.

This is a choice of empowerment, rather than a clinging on and neediness.

2011 Copyright. Blaire Allison, LLC. All Rights Reserved.

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About Blaire Allison:
Blaire Allison is an Intuitive Heart Healer, known as the Love Guru. In 2004, she was frustrated and fed up in her search to find "The One" so she prayed for guidance and had the idea to put up a website, www.marryblaire.com. On the website she stated boldly, "I'm Ready To Get Married - Do You Know My Husband?" What started off as a fun project and a way for her to be more proactive in her love life, turned into a magical journey. The Universe stepped in and taught her an easier, more natural, flowing way to find love, which she now teaches and calls "The Spiritual Way To Attract The One." Blaire has the gift to open and heal your heart so you can attract the love you desire. Within a few minutes of talking with you Blaire can tell either what's blocking you from attracting love (and then will take you through Heart Healing Exercises™) or if your heart is totally clear, she will take you through Love Attracting Exercises™ so you can attract love into your life, rather than searching or looking for it which is what most people do. Blaire communicates with the Spiritual realm and shares channeled messages from her guides and angels that will help and heal your love life. Sessions are unique; a combination of spiritual principles as well as practical exercises that will help you enjoy a happier, healthier life. Blaire is regularly featured in National and International Press. The New York Times, Los Angeles Times, Montel Show, Glamour Magazine, Inside Edition, MSNBC, CNN, etc. A beautiful mix of Spirituality and Psychology, Blaire is currently completing her Master's degree in Marriage and Family Therapy. To learn more visit www.loveguru.net

Divorce Heart Healings

2011-12-27T07:47:00.000-08:00

Heal Your Heart After Divorce

Are you struggling with the after effects of divorce?

Still carry a lot of baggage and hurt from your failed marriage?

I have worked with clients who have been divorced for many years now, have moved on,

but are still carrying a lot of baggage and hurt from their failed relationship in their energy body (their aura)

This sadness, hurt, anger, disappointment, and upset may be effecting your current relationship

It may be effecting your ability to co-parent with your ex

And it may effect your future relationship, as well as the attracting power you have to draw in a new partner.

Healing hearts is a gift I have been given and have been sharing with singles to help them attract love for many years now.

After seeing many clients who are still carrying the energy of anger, disappointment, upset, and resentment from their divorce and towards their ex-partner, I thought it was time to openly offer my service to all women who have experienced divorce and want help healing their hearts.

Unfortunately, most people are not aware of how much divorce effects their heart.

They are not aware of how much divorce effects their general well being

And how much divorce effects their ability to attract the things that they most desire into their lives.

Who is helping you heal your heart after divorce?

I will help you....

Get the anger out
Clear the sadness and regret
Heal the resentments you hold....
Understand why and how you got into this situation
Guide you in getting the gifts out of this experience and out of the relationship. (Yes, there are many gifts that come from divorce!)
Help you leave behind the "gunk" of the relationship
Clear and cleanse your heart so you can move forward without baggage
Recreate the vision of your next partner, if you are ready to love again....
Be put back on the path, ready for your next relationship.
Learn about yourself and what you have to offer a partner
Learn how to honor, cherish, and love yourself
Learn how to create healthy relationships
Release your anger, sadness, regret, and frustrations
Learn how to get the respect in your relationship that you deserve
Learn how to set healthy boundaries that honor who you are as a person

Open your heart again... have you closed it?

Learn how to not set yourself up to get hurt again
Discover what your expectations were and are in relationships
Rebuild trust with the opposite sex
Break relationship patterns - become more aware, heal, and create new healthy patterns
Trust in the universe again. You are being guided and taken care of...

Get More Info / Schedule your Session

About Blaire Allison

Clairvoyant, Clauradient, Claircogniscent, Empath, Intuitive Heart Healer, Spiritual Teacher, The Love Guru

In 2004, Blaire was frustrated and fed up in her search to find "The One" so she prayed for guidance and had the idea to put up a website entitled www.marryblaire.com. On the website she stated boldly, "I'm Ready To Get Married - Do You Know My Husband?" What started off as a fun project and a way for her to be more proactive in her love life, turned into a magical journey. The Universe stepped in and taught her an easier, more natural, flowing way to find love, which she now teaches and calls "The Spiritual Way To Attract The One."

Blaire is regularly featured in National & International Press. The New York Times, The Los Angeles Times, Montel Show, Glamour Magazine, Inside Edition, MSNBC, CNN, New York Daily News, etc.

A beautiful mix of Spirituality and Psychology, Blaire is currently completing her Master's degree in Marriage and Family Therapy.

Healing Your Old Wounds In Relationships

2011-12-25T05:51:00.000-08:00

I would like to talk to you about healing as it relates to your relationships.

Many years ago when I was introduced to the concept of healing I didn't know what the term meant. I thought that healing was for people who had something wrong with them.

Maybe an illness or some disease. Maybe something traumatic in their childhood or something traumatic happen in their life.

But nothing "bad" had happened in my childhood and nothing "bad" had happened in my life. So when a Intuitive Healer had mentioned to me that I was going to be doing healing with her, I had no idea what she was talking about.

Through our sessions she did energy healing on me. We did a combination of energy healing, channeled messages from Spirit, and emotional healing. Coincidentally, or actually more like the way life works, as she was doing healings on me and as I was going through this process with her, I was also opening up to my psychic gifts and learning how she does the things that she does, so that I now do this for my clients.

But that's the way it works. When you work intensely with someone, you are becoming both the student and the teacher. Student to her teachings. Learning and growing with her. As well as teacher for my clients. Learning the skills to do what she does to help others. That's how my journey began and that's what I've learned how the spiritual world works.

Okay, so back to my story. Every 2-3 weeks I would meet with my teacher/Intuitive Healer. She would talk to me about things going on in my life and she would understand on a deeper level what interactions were really happening.

I might have seen the situation in one way, but she saw it in a completely, deeper, more insightful, truth-based way. She saw it the way source sees it... the way Spirit sees it.

Each session I had took me deeper into an understanding of myself and deeper into the healing of my emotional wounds.

Just like an onion, each session, I was peeling off layer by layer parts of my personality that I had developed to keep me safe. Parts of my personality that I had developed to help me survive.

Again, I must share with you that nothing major or bad had happened in my life but just by being in this world, we all develop these layers and these various forms of protection to get us through. These could be defense mechanisms, certain ways of interacting with people, outdated or incorrect thought patterns. We develop these things not as something to sabotage our life and our relationships, but as ways of protection to keep us safe.

So each time I spoke with her I was able to release this emotional baggage. Each time I spoke with her my perspective on life had changed. I was able to see my old way of viewing life and would also be able to see the new thought pattern I was re-adopting into my life.

The reason why I say "re-adopting" into my life is because this process of emotional healing, allows you to see where you were thinking faulty thoughts. It allows you to see how you developed thought patterns and defense mechanisms that helped you survive in this world, based on the wounds in relationships you experienced. There is nothing wrong with these thought patterns, as they helped you get through that period in your life and they helped you feel safe through them. But now, when you feel called to come to a healer, your soul is calling you, you are feeling ready to release these patterns you adopted and you are on a conscious or unconscious level saying, I am ready to get rid of these wounded thoughts and I am ready to re-step into the truth.

The truth, as I speak about it here, has to do with the thoughts that are in alignment with love. They are thoughts and ways of seeing the world that are based on no fear, compassion, protection, truth and love. These are the thoughts, they are the way of being, as your higher self lives. They are ways of being, your Spirit lives.

The more you are able to shed your old thought patterns. The more you are able to heal your old wounds, your life experience gets better and better. Your relationships with everyone gets better and your psychic ability improves. (This last part was a major motivating factor for me and still is). But everyone has their own motivation as to why they would want to do emotional healing. There is no right or wrong answer.

The reason why I first went to an Intuitive Healer was because I was curious. The curiosity was a big factor for me. I wanted to see what she could do for me. I wanted to see what she was offering and how my life would change. My curiosity is what kept me coming back. But I also felt much better about my life. I felt much happier.

In our sessions I was learning all about me. I was falling in love with me and I was fascinated. I learned why I acted in certain ways, why certain things hurt my feelings or why certain things made me mad. I was learning all about my gifts and abilities - gifts and abilities that were never recognized or appreciated by others. Our sessions made me feel very good.

My life got better. I felt more confident, happier, and peaceful. Also, my psychic abilities improved. My psychic abilities came out and flourished. This was super exciting to me. My life took on a magical quality. I felt like I had found my "home."

I also started seeing how most of our society does things and lives lives based on fear. I used to be in this group, but working with my healer helped clear this for me. I continue to do this work on myself, because as I said before, it's a process which continues for the rest of your life, like an onion, layer by layer. You get deeper into knowing and loving yourself.

So this is a little bit about my journey with healing. I share it with you so you can benefit. I share it with you because I feel strongly it is my time to share this information with you. How funny that I do emotional and energy healing with my clients, but don't ever talk about it publicly? Now is the time.

We are going into a special energy with the year 2012. We have already started feeling that energy. It is so strong and so powerful. This year is going to be a magical year for all of us. Many new insights and a new ways of being in the world.

It is very important that if you feel intrigued by what I am talking about, that if you are curious what energy healing or emotional healing is all about, that you start working with me or another healer to start uncovering the thought patterns that are no longer serving you.

Start working with a healer so you can start healing the old wounds you are carrying around from your past relationships and from your failed relationship.

To clear the old wounds you are carrying around from childhood. We are all carrying around wounds from childhood and this is something I will speak about in the future. But like I shared with you in the beginning, it doesn't matter how great or wonderful your childhood was, there are deep down wounds that you are carrying around like heavy stinky baggage, that if you cleared them out, you would experience your life on a whole different higher level.

My specialty is emotional healing. I am an Intuitive Heart Healer. I deal with, like it says, matters of the heart. Emotions, feelings, longings of the heart, the beauty of your heart. Anything having to do with your love life and anything to make your life better. Stepping into the life you have been dreaming of.

I share this with you, because I want to be specific about the type of work I do. There are Intuitive Healers who specialize on medical conditions and if you are having health problems, I would suggest you speak to an Medical Intuitive Healer and not me :) Some Intuitives are able to see, feel, smell, know where disfunction is in the body and help you heal that. My work covers some of this, but we all have our special gifts, and again, my specialty is on emotional healing - which is heart healing.

To learn more about my work, visit here. It will share with you how my sessions work and what exactly an Intuitive Heart Healer is. This was a title I was given by Spirit.

If you are interested in scheduling a session, I work in person (Delray Beach, FL) or over the phone if you are anywhere else in the world. Visit here if you are single. and here if you are in a relationship.

I wish you the very best on your magical healing journey.

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About Blaire Allison:
Blaire Allison is an Intuitive Heart Healer, known as the Love Guru. In 2004, she was frustrated and fed up in her search to find "The One" so she prayed for guidance and had the idea to put up a website, www.marryblaire.com. On the website she stated boldly, "I'm Ready To Get Married - Do You Know My Husband?" What started off as a fun project and a way for her to be more proactive in her love life, turned into a magical journey. The Universe stepped in and taught her an easier, more natural, flowing way to find love, which she now teaches and calls "The Spiritual Way To Attract The One." Blaire is frequently interviewed in National and International Press (MSNBC, CNN, New York Times, Montel Show, Glamour Magazine, Inside Edition ...to name a few). For more information, visitwww.loveguru.net

Paradigm Shift In Relationships: Labels

2011-12-24T04:59:00.000-08:00

My friends, there is more to this paradigm shift in relationships.
Much more and I will share the information with you here.

The next lesson has to do with labels.
Please do not be concerned with the labels in relationships you are keeping.

My friends, it is not important if you are boyfriend and girlfriend, lovers, good friends, husband and wife, separated from your ex, widowed or divorced.

These labels don't matter.
Labels put us in a box, they confine us and don't encompass the true individuality that each of your relationships has. Labels have served us in the past, but now they have no power at all.

So, yes, my friends it is important to know if you are being exclusive and the only other one sharing bodily exchanges with the other.... it is important to know if you are committed to one another, but my friends, the label that goes along with that is not important anymore.

Relationships take many forms and we are about to go much deeper into our love and expression with one another. Relationships will take many forms and go as deep as you allow them too... as deep as you are open to them going.

By putting a label on yourself, such as "single," the label does you no justice, for you are in a serious, deeply committed, loving, amorous relationship with yourself. You are in a deeply committed, loving, amorous relationship with Spirit. So my friends, if you take the old label of "single" you are being confined and defined as having no love in your life. My friends, this couldn't be further from the truth.

Let me explain further...

If you take the label of "in a relationship" again you are confined. It is confusing this label. Who are you in a relationship with? Of course we know this means you are in a relationship with a man or a woman, but this gives the assumption that you are not in relationships with anyone else, and friends, we assure you, you are in relationships with many other people.

For if you are "in a relationship" with only one another.... then my friend, you are in a very dangerous relationship. For a relationship, one relationship, cannot happen in a bubble, for if it does, there is something very wrong. There is something very unhealthy about this. A relationship with another, one you find attractive, should be one of many relationships you engage in. So therefore, a label such as "in a relationship" is very off the mark, misconstrued, and no longer serving.

If you choose to say "I am married" then what does that mean? Does that mean you will spend your life with this person? For we all know that many who claim they are married do not spend the entire rest of their lives with the other. Most separate down the line, when they have naturally changed paths from one another. This is completely fine and there is no judgment with that, we are just showing you that the label of "married" means nothing much these days.

Then there is the label of "divorced." Well big whoop my friends. Many people are "divorced" from a lover. This is natural and nothing wrong with it. We pair up with lovers, with partners, during many different times in our life. During many different stages of our lives. When those lessons are done being learned, well, we separate. Divorce is simply a separation, a separation from a loved one. There is nothing to be ashamed of with this. There is no need to brand yourself to the world, "Hello! I'm divorced!" For my friends, that is absolutely ludicrous, as in everyone in this world has had a separation of an intimate partner they once loved. For this is a natural transition, from one level of growth to the next, one level of learning to the next. So to label yourself as "divorced," to take on that branding, just does not make sense. You choose to love with your full heart. You learned whatever lessons you needed to by that partnership, and then you moved on. Yes, you moved on whether you consciously chose this moving on or not, it is what your soul wanted. So my friends, to label yourself "divorced" makes no sense and is confusing to one's mind, for we have all experienced a "divorce" from a loved one and therefore your label does not stand out or tell us something new that we haven't already experienced ourself... there's nothing different or unique or defining about that label, and therefore simply makes no sense.

If you go around saying you are "widowed," why yes, that is very sad that you lost the one who was closest to you, but does this not mean that you have moved on? To label yourself as "widowed" keeps you in that box of sorrow, it keeps you in that box of mourning, and to stay in that sadness, mourning zone for anyone is just not good. For your life is long. Very long and you will love again. The first step would be to remove that label "widow" which is confining you. This doesn't mean you take away from the love and devotion you and your partner had for one another, it just means that you love and accept what has happened and that you are giving yourself permission to open your heart and move forward in love again.

So you see my friends, labeling your love does nothing for you anymore. This is an outdated way of being and you are far too complex to be boxed in by a label of love. Love is in all relationships that you have in your life. Be it with the gardener, or the mailman, or with your neighbor, or your friend. All these relationships carry love and by labeling your relational status, judging it on just one small, intsy, bitsy relationship in your life, just doesn't do YOU justice. The time is over where you are judging your worth based on the love you have with just one person. Instead, please join me in stepping into the time where you look at your life through the eyes of the many loving relationships you have. For this is just one of the paradigm shifts happening at this time.

Wishing you the best in love,

Blaire Allison
Intuitive Heart Healer, The Love Guru
www.loveguru.net

2011 Copyright. Blaire Allison, LLC. All Rights Reserved.

Feel free to repost this article elsewhere, just please include bio info below. Thank you.

About Blaire Allison:
Blaire Allison is an Intuitive Heart Healer, known as the Love Guru. In 2004, she was frustrated and fed up in her search to find "The One" so she prayed for guidance and had the idea to put up a website, www.marryblaire.com. On the website she stated boldly, "I'm Ready To Get Married - Do You Know My Husband?" What started off as a fun project and a way for her to be more proactive in her love life, turned into a magical journey. The Universe stepped in and taught her an easier, more natural, flowing way to find love, which she now teaches and calls "The Spiritual Way To Attract The One." Blaire is frequently interviewed in National and International Press (MSNBC, CNN, New York Times, Montel Show, Glamour Magazine, Inside Edition ...to name a few). For more information, visitwww.loveguru.net

Paradigm Shift In Relationships

2011-12-23T14:30:00.000-08:00

There is a great paradigm shift happening in relationships at this time.

Relationships (intimate relationships) may not take the form you expect them to be.
They may not take the form you want them to be.
They may not take the form you have been dreaming of them to be.
But this is okay.

Instead, relationships are taking the form they need to be.

The form they need to be in order for you to evolve.
The form they need to be in order for you both, in partnership to grow and to understand yourselves, and one another.

My relationship, right now, is in the form of a long distance relationship.

We are in two separate homes, separated by the Atlantic Ocean, communicating through email.

Others of you, your relationship may take the form of two separate homes, in the same town.

Others, your relationship may be two separate bedrooms, within the same house.

Do not be stuck in the form of your relationship.

Do not put borders and boundaries on the shape your love takes form.

Instead, embrace the lessons you are learning.
Embrace the love you have for one another.
Embrace what you are given.
And know that this is for your highest learning.

Do not be moved to leave your relationship because it is not in the form you are expecting.
Do not leave a relationship because it does not look the way you expect it to look.
Instead, look inside your heart and get a sense of how it is making you feel.

Do not worry what others will think, for they are not you, and they do not know the lessons you are learning. For if they did, they would understand that this relationship is for your highest home coming.
That it is for your highest good.

Your relationship may not be in the form you are expecting - - the form you are wanting - - but this does not matter. You are still in a relationship where you are loved.

Wishing you the best in love,

Blaire Allison
Intuitive Heart Healer, The Love Guru
www.loveguru.net

2011 Copyright. Blaire Allison, LLC. All Rights Reserved.

Feel free to repost this article elsewhere, just please include bio info below. Thank you.

About Blaire Allison:
Blaire Allison is an Intuitive Heart Healer, known as the Love Guru. In 2004, she was frustrated and fed up in her search to find "The One" so she prayed for guidance and had the idea to put up a website, www.marryblaire.com. On the website she stated boldly, "I'm Ready To Get Married - Do You Know My Husband?" What started off as a fun project and a way for her to be more proactive in her love life, turned into a magical journey. The Universe stepped in and taught her an easier, more natural, flowing way to find love, which she now teaches and calls "The Spiritual Way To Attract The One." Blaire is frequently interviewed in National and International Press (MSNBC, CNN, New York Times, Montel Show, Glamour Magazine, Inside Edition ...to name a few). For more information, visitwww.loveguru.net

Clearing Out Old Thought Patterns In Relationships

2011-12-23T08:42:00.000-08:00

Lately, I've been clearing out a lot of fear in my relationships.

I've also been healing and releasing thought patterns that no longer serve me in my life.

My post from yesterday ("Mourning My Marriage") was my old way of viewing relationship. My post was filled with old thoughts that were based on fear and old thoughts which were based on expectation.

My thoughts based on fear were like this....

"I'm afraid to stay attached to this man....
Afraid to wait and see what happens....
What if he hasn't changed?
....If he hasn't changed, then I would have wasted more time of my life in this relationship...
I gotta keep it movin'"

Then the other thoughts....

"Let me clear him out of my life.
The New Year is upon us and I don't want to go into the New Year in this dead end relationship....
I want to find a true life partner, a husband, and possibly have a family of my own.
I'm getting older and I better hurry up if I want to have a kid(s)"

And then the next ones....

"I've been hurt in this relationship before.
I don't want to be hurt again.
I'm afraid to get hurt again"

"I've got to protect my ego.
I don't want to stick around, give him a chance, only to find out he hasn't changed and it's more of the same."

"I need to let him go, I don't want to look bad.
If he lets me down again, then I'll be mad at myself for being so foolish."

With all these fearful thoughts floating around, how can you possibly think straight?
The answer is, you can't.

Then there were my thoughts based on expectation.

"When I find my life partner, he should be a spiritual man."

"He should be actively learning/studying spirituality and do self growth with me."

"He should be mature."

"He should inspire me by his self growth work. I want to admire my man."

"I want to feel good and be uplifted in his presence."

These were expectations - desires - that I birthed from being in our relationship.

Desires that came about because I was not feeling this connection to my partner.

But it looks like my man has changed.
He is reading and learning and doing healing work.
He is growing.
And he's into it as well.

If I think about the past, how we were before he left for England, how he effected me, and how I felt - I get upset and I feel fearful.

But if I look at our relationship now. If I look at my man now, I am hopeful.

In this present moment, my husband is this man that I've always wanted.

In this present moment, this is who he is becoming.

Maybe this is what has awakened in him from being in partnership with me...

My old thought process would say:
"Maybe this is what my purpose was in his life - and now it's time for us to part."

This was definitely my old thought pattern.
An old thought pattern that I was thinking up until a day or two ago...

I felt happy for him for being on a spiritual path now....but I also felt upset and used.

Upset that his next partner would get the spiritual man that I have always wanted.

But, stop.

This is ridiculous.

Clear out those thoughts and be focused on the present.

In the present, he still very much loves me.

In the present, he still wants "us."

In the present moment, we still want to be together...
And it really is that simple.

Right now, change and growth is happening for us as a couple.
This is all I ever wanted from a partner.... and now, it's taking place.

I would be foolish to ignore my heart, be stubborn, be stuck in old patterns of thought, and move on to the next.

Instead, I have come to learn that we are all human.
We are all human, striving to reach our own divinity.

I am on this path, he is on this path, and I am free to love again.

Wishing you the best in love,

Blaire Allison
Intuitive Heart Healer, The Love Guru
www.loveguru.net

2011 Copyright. Blaire Allison, LLC. All Rights Reserved.

Feel free to repost this article elsewhere, just please include bio info below. Thank you.

About Blaire Allison:
Blaire Allison is an Intuitive Heart Healer, known as the Love Guru. In 2004, she was frustrated and fed up in her search to find "The One" so she prayed for guidance and had the idea to put up a website, www.marryblaire.com. On the website she stated boldly, "I'm Ready To Get Married - Do You Know My Husband?" What started off as a fun project and a way for her to be more proactive in her love life, turned into a magical journey. The Universe stepped in and taught her an easier, more natural, flowing way to find love, which she now teaches and calls "The Spiritual Way To Attract The One." Blaire is frequently interviewed in National and International Press (MSNBC, CNN, New York Times, Montel Show, Glamour Magazine, Inside Edition ...to name a few). For more information, visitwww.loveguru.net

Mourning My Marriage

2011-12-22T05:50:00.000-08:00

My husband went back to England a little over a week ago.

Since that time my husband and I have been emailing.
Emailing what we've been up to and the growth and healing we've been going through.

At first I was confused by this. We had broken up, but yet we were keeping in touch.

Talking about how we would get back together and discussing flights for me to go out and visit him.

But this made no sense to me.
We had broken up for a reason...
And change takes time.
Growth takes time.

Growth and change... both take time and effort.
So with a week gone by, what has really changed?

By me talking to him.... by me making plans to go out and visit him.... what would be the point of this?

What would really be different?
And what would have really changed between us?

The answer is nothing.

But then I debated myself. Maybe keeping in touch is a good thing?
We could keep in touch....
Keep the door to our relationship open....
Share our learnings with one another....
and grow together.

But was this really necessary?

Did we need to do this growth hand in hand?

I was confused.

When we were in our marriage, I was patient.
I gave him time and encouraged him to grow.
But he wasn't interested and/or wasn't ready.

This frustrated me.... it brought upset, anger, and resentment.

So now that we're broken up and he's eager to learn and doing the "work," do I really need to know about his growth every step of the way?

Do I need to hear about what he is experiencing...
What he is learning....
What he is doing...

The answer is no.

If we were ever to get back together, we would be meeting as two different people.
We would be meeting one another anew.

Part of this process for me, is to separate, to grow, to learn, to mourn, to heal....
And to quite simply, basically, easily, effortlessly, see where that takes me.

It's easy to keep in touch with an ex and keep hope alive for the future.
It's easy to stay attached and hang on.

Having faith and working as a partner with the Universe means that you don't have to control every minute of your life.

It means staying in the present moment and focusing on what's in front of you.
It means focusing on what your soul needs - what your soul wants.

Right now, my soul wants to mourn a marriage gone wrong.
My soul wants to learn, grow, heal and move on.
My soul wants to find happiness, play, and be free.

With all the "what if's" that my mind could throw at me about my relationship, I am practicing bringing the focus back on my soul and letting that be the force that guides me.

Wishing you the best in love,

Blaire Allison
Intuitive Heart Healer, The Love Guru
www.loveguru.net

2011 Copyright. Blaire Allison, LLC. All Rights Reserved.

Feel free to repost this article elsewhere, just please include bio info below. Thank you.

About Blaire Allison:
Blaire Allison is an Intuitive Heart Healer, known as the Love Guru. In 2004, she was frustrated and fed up in her search to find "The One" so she prayed for guidance and had the idea to put up a website, www.marryblaire.com. On the website she stated boldly, "I'm Ready To Get Married - Do You Know My Husband?" What started off as a fun project and a way for her to be more proactive in her love life, turned into a magical journey. The Universe stepped in and taught her an easier, more natural, flowing way to find love, which she now teaches and calls "The Spiritual Way To Attract The One." Blaire is frequently interviewed in National and International Press (MSNBC, CNN, New York Times, Montel Show, Glamour Magazine, Inside Edition ...to name a few). For more information, visit www.loveguru.net

My Unhappiness (in my relationship & marriage)

2011-12-18T09:41:00.000-08:00

My unhappiness in my relationship and my marriage started sometime ago.

We would have ups and downs, which I would dismiss - or talk myself into dismissing - as simply, us getting used to one another and getting used to the relationship.

He's British and I'm American.
We may speak the same language, but the way we use our words, our expressions, and our culture is completely different. This was in part, part of my unhappiness.

There were other issues.
Since he moved here from England to be with me, right away we were with one another 24/7.
In the same apartment. Then in the same house. Then in a much smaller apartment.

We were "stuck" living in a small space.

Two people, who are very much still getting to know one another, from different cultures, both in a new area (I moved from NJ, he from England), both adjusting.

The relationship.
Living together.
Living in a new state/country.
It was all ...not so easy.

Then there were the work and money issues.
Since my husband is from England and the greencard takes some time to process, there is a lag time.
A lag time of no work and no money.

So with my husband having no work motivation and fulfillment. And with him having no reason to be in Florida, except for the fact of being here to be with me, it was hard for him to adjust.

He was stuck doing absolutely nothing all day long - for months at a time.
Not able to drive, not able to work, and not able to make money.
(Those are the rules according to the American government)

So obviously he was bored and he wasn't happy.
And neither was I.

I was feeling smothered and I felt responsible.
Smothered by him being around all the time.
Upset that he didn't have much of anything else to focus on but me.
Very busy... exhausted... and overwhelmed at times with school and work.
And responsible for him liking it here.

I wanted him to adjust successfully to the American way of life, so he would like it here, would want to stay, and we'd be happy.

It was too much.

I needed my space.
Space to unwind.
Space to think.
Space to sit on the couch, watch tv, and veg out.
Space to draw, to paint, to write, to create.

My creative juices were drying up.
I was cranky and had a short fuse.
My patience had withered and I knew I needed my space.

I mentioned this to him, but we both were stuck.
If he went back to England to work, the greencard would be null and void.
We'd be back to square one and we were so close to setting up and having a normal life with one another.

There was nothing we could do.

But looking back on it now, there was something we could do.
He could have gone back to England to work and we could have figured out some other way.

This is where I made my mistake.
And as a result, this is where I learned my lesson.

I didn't honor my soul.
I didn't honor my Spirit.
And I didn't honor my truth.

The truth was that I needed my space.
The truth was I felt smothered.
The truth was I couldn't think straight.
The truth was I wasn't happy.

I felt "bad" and "wrong" and "mean" for telling him I needed him to move out.
There was no place for him to go.
He was in a foreign land and after all, he had moved here to be with me.

So since I judged myself as wrong for wanting this, I stifled my voice and stuffed my feelings.
As a result, my Spirit shut down.

This served to "save" our relationship on the outside, but in the inside I got more unhappy.

I also developed anger.
And rage.

These were emotions that I threw as daggers, aimed at myself.
I hated myself and now I hated my life.

Instead of listening to my inner voice, my intuition, my guidance, I ignored it.
Instead of my own happiness, my own peace of mind, and my own well being, I chose my man and our relationship.

The relationship you have with yourself is the most important relationship you have in this world.
It's a lesson that I continue to be reminded of and one I continue to learn.

A few days ago I finally built up enough strength, courage, and love for myself to tell my husband I just couldn't do it anymore. I finally built up enough power to say, I choose myself.

Since I've made this decision and since he's moved out, I've been much happier.
I am able to think more clearly and able to hear my intuition.
My creative juices are back in full flow.

Also, I am able to see what issues were brought up for me through this relationship and am able to work on those parts that need healing.

And as a surprise and a gift, my relationship with my husband is much better.
We are working on ourselves and figuring out our relationship.

In moving forward, I will always remember this time in my life, smile, and be grateful.

It hasn't been easy, but a strong message has emerged.
From this experience, I have learned and vow ...to always choose myself first.

Wishing you the best in love,
Blaire Allison

Copyright 2011. Blaire Allison, LLC. All Rights Reserved.

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About Blaire Allison
Intuitive Heart Healer, The Love Guru

Blaire has the gift to open and heal your heart so you can attract the love you desire. Within a few minutes of talking with you in a session Blaire can tell either what's blocking you from attracting love (and then will take you through Heart Healing Exercises^(TM)) or if your heart is totally clear, she will take you through Love Attracting Exercises^(TM) so you can attract love into your life, rather than searching or looking for it which is what most people do. Blaire communicates with the Spiritual realm and shares channeled messages from her guides and angels that will help and heal your love life. Sessions are unique; a combination of spiritual principles as well as practical exercises that will help you enjoy a happier, healthier life. Blaire is regularly featured in National & International Press. The New York Times, The Los Angeles Times, Montel Show, Glamour Magazine, Inside Edition, MSNBC, CNN, New York Daily News, to name a few. Visit www.loveguru.net to learn more

The (Soul) Purpose of Marriage

2011-12-17T06:12:00.000-08:00

Some people get married because they have fun with the other person.

Some people get married for financial security.

Some people get married to get out of their parent's house.

Some people get married because they are pregnant....
or are getting older.

Some people get married because they are in love...

And some people get married because they don't want to be alone.

There are many, many reasons why people decide to get married.

But today, we're going to talk about your soul's reason for getting married.
This reason holds true whether you are consciously aware of it or not.

(Which by the way, just for clarification, Spirit doesn't care if you get married or not, the idea of partnership is what matters)

So your soul's reason for getting married is to grow your soul.

We, as humans are here on Earth for growth.
Growth... and to have fun and enjoy in our human experience.
That's it.

In partnership we are able to get very intimate with another human being.
This person acts as our mirror so we can see who we really are.

Usually our tendency is to see things in that person that we do not like.
We see the person as being a complainer.
A worry wart.
Controlling.
Lazy.
Negative.

We become filled with blame and disgust.
So what do we do? We dump the person. We move on and find a new partner.
But is this really the way?

I'm guilty of doing this.
Look what I've done in my relationship now.

I've done this in many of my relationships over the years.
The person showed traits that I did not like...
The person showed their "humanness"...
Their flaws...
and I moved on.

Now, I don't regret doing this as there were other lessons I was learning through these experiences.
I also don't think those people would have been good life partners for me, but through all of this I've come to a new level of clarity about partnership.

I've come to a new level of understanding about what I am seeking in a marriage partner.

Now, when I choose a man to be my life partner (and again, I'm not saying that my husband now is not this person....) I will consciously look for a man who understands that relationships require growth.

It's important for him to understand that relationships require self examination and learning.

Now again, please don't assume that my husband is not willing or not doing self growth, as he is into it and he is doing it...

All I'm saying is that my understanding is that learning and growth is a constant thing in marriage.

Plenty of people go through this growth reactively. They have a fight, they get upset about something, things aren't going as planned.... Negative emotions come up and outbursts occur. Things get worse and worse. In this scenario, growth happens because it has to. Because it is forced upon the person and the couple. This is the most common form of growth in partnership.
It's growth the hard way.

You're reactive to issues in your partnership/marriage and grow as a result.
You grow, not necessarily because you want to, but because you have to.
This growth is painful, confusing, and hard.

Then there is learning and growing the proactive way.
In this scenario, you are actively learning about yourself. You're actively learning about your partner.
He's actively learning about himself - and he's actively learning about you.
You are both actively learning about the relationship.
This form of growth requires effort. It requires discipline. It requires motivation. It also requires curiosity.

Proactive learning or proactive growth (as I will call it...) in a relationship enhances your relationship with yourself as well as with your partner.

Instead of your relationship staying at a standstill, being "okay," or being on autopilot, your relationship gets better and better. More intimate and more connected.
This type of learning... "proactive growth" ...is beautiful, connected, easier, and more fulfilling.

Sadly, most souls in our society grow through relationships the first way I spoke of... they grow the reactive way. Their souls are FORCED through growth. (i.e. your partner cheats on you... or you cheat on your partner.... and then you are faced to look at yourself, your motives, and grow through it. Many people are hurt in this process)

Instead, when you grow proactively, you are actively - and consciously - making the choice to grow.

You understand that growth is what your soul wants and you understand that that's why you as a human being are here on Earth. You understand this, so you do "the work."

Unfortunately most times - if not always - when people in our society say "Marriages require work" they are talking about the hard, unenjoyable, reactive type of growth (aka, work). They are not talking about the proactive, fun, more enjoyable work that I am speaking about here.

Through this experience with my husband, I have learned that in order for me to be happy in a lifelong commitment and partnership, it's important that I have a partner who proactively learns and grows in our relationship. I have also learned that I need to do this too.

Wishing you the best in love,

Blaire Allison
Intuitive Heart Healer, The Love Guru
www.loveguru.net

2011 Copyright. Blaire Allison, LLC. All Rights Reserved.

Feel free to repost this article elsewhere, just please include bio info below. Thank you.

About Blaire Allison:
Blaire Allison is an Intuitive Heart Healer, known as the Love Guru. In 2004, she was frustrated and fed up in her search to find "The One" so she prayed for guidance and had the idea to put up a website, www.marryblaire.com. On the website she stated boldly, "I'm Ready To Get Married - Do You Know My Husband?" What started off as a fun project and a way for her to be more proactive in her love life, turned into a magical journey. The Universe stepped in and taught her an easier, more natural, flowing way to find love, which she now teaches and calls "The Spiritual Way To Attract The One." Blaire is frequently interviewed in National and International Press (MSNBC, CNN, New York Times, Montel Show, Glamour Magazine, Inside Edition ...to name a few).

Marriage is not what I expected.

2011-12-16T13:47:00.000-08:00

Marriage is not what I expected, dreamed of, wanted, or even hoped for.
It's not a fairytale ending, a dream come true, or really anything rosy, happy, or hopeful.

Instead, marriage is an intense personal learning playground of healing.
Healing of your inner childhood wounds and a mirror to your own ugliness.
Marriage isn't anything I ever dreamed it would be, but instead everything my soul needs and wants for me.

I think back to the many years of my life I spent trying to figure out how to attract "the One"...
I learned those lessons, but now, at age 34, just a few months into my marriage I feel lost, confused, and really thrown for a loop.

It almost feels like a cruel joke or that something's not right in the world.

Since we are young, we're given constant messages that marriage is this magical experience.
That you meet your prince charming, he sweeps you off your feet, you get up on his white horse, you're swept up into this magical romance, and it's happily ever after.

End of story. Happiness, finally found. The end.

But no. Marriage isn't like that.

It's not the end of the journey.
It's not a time to rest or even rejoice....
Instead, this is when your personal growth journey steps it up a notch and it's time for some real learning.

Now I always thought, you clear out all your barriers to love.... you learn how to attract love... and bam! you're done working. You attract a partner and you're out of your singlehood status.
Happy days! Right? Wrong!
But ohh no, the work doesn't end once you've found your "One."
And it doesn't end with the wedding bells either.

Instead, another journey - this time harder - begins.

My experience with marriage has been hard. Real hard.

It's been exhausting.

It's also been overwhelming and way too much to handle.

I craved my space, my silence, and my journal.
With another person in my space 24 hours a day it was really hard for me to hear my intuition, process things, and feel comfortable.

Between school work I needed to do to finish up my Masters, working with patients at the therapy center, doing Love Guru pursuits, finding time for myself, and getting used to and building the relationship with my husband, the classroom of marriage simply became too much to handle.

A couple of days ago my husband decided to go back to England.

He is there learning more about himself... and I am here doing the same thing.

I don't know where that leaves us, our marriage, or my thoughts on the subject.

For now, I just know I am happy to have my space back, sometime to think, and a whole list of things about myself that I need to work on.

Right now, I am happy being back with myself - and for now, I am happy back being single.

Quite a curve ball, I know, but like any of our journey's here on earth, we don't plan them, Spirit does.

Wishing you the best in love,
Blaire Allison

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About Blaire Allison, Intuitive Heart Healer, The Love Guru
Blaire has the gift to open and heal your heart so you can attract the love you desire. Within a few minutes of talking with you in a session Blaire can tell either what's blocking you from attracting love (and then will take you through Heart Healing Exercises^(TM)) or if your heart is totally clear, she will take you through Love Attracting Exercises^(TM) so you can attract love into your life, rather than searching or looking for it which is what most people do. Blaire communicates with the Spiritual realm and shares channeled messages from her guides and angels that will help and heal your love life. Sessions are unique; a combination of spiritual principles as well as practical exercises that will help you enjoy a happier, healthier life. Blaire is regularly featured in National & International Press. The New York Times, The Los Angeles Times, Montel Show, Glamour Magazine, Inside Edition, MSNBC, CNN, New York Daily News, to name a few. Visit www.loveguru.net to learn more